Wednesday, August 4, 2010
(43-8) The Dirty Word
Now don't get me wrong, the last thing that I want to be is a hypocrite. HMMM well maybe not the LAST THING - but , I'm just saying that I don't want to be a hypocrite, because sometimes IT IS difficult for me to say no to friends. I have no problem saying no to my kids when I need to; but when it comes to friends I don't often say no. I am getting better at it, if it's something that will inconvenience me; however, I have encountered others who can never seem to say "No" even when that's EXACTLY what they want to say. And to those I say, if a friend can't accept you saying "No," then they're really NOT a friend. Being a friend, a girlfriend, a wife, a mother, a sister, or a daughter, doesn't mean that you have to sacrifice what's best for you, in order to avoid disappointing someone else.
So, let's try this; if saying "No" isn't easy for you, just try it anyway (when necessary;) ya know, just in keeping with that whole face your fear thing that I was wrote about yesterday. If it REALLY turns out poorly for you; let me know and I'll be right there with an ear and a shoulder (although I don't think you'll be needing me.)
And as for those of you who are scared to hear "NO," then again we are right back to the fear concept; so I say, do whatever it is that you are afraid is going to garner the "No" response AND if "No" is the answer that your given and it truly devastates you; re-read my last paragraph, and take me up on my offer. But I'm telling you as well, I don't think that you'll be needing me.
Be STRONG! Say "No" when you need to AND MEAN IT. If you Change your answer from a "No" to a "Yes," no one will EVER take no for an answer from you. And remember NO is just a tiny two letter word; there really are FAR WORSE...
Till next time...
Queen of EVERYTHING